Here is a compilation 10 of life lessons that I have learnt over the last 25 years.
1. Self-care is essential. No one is going to care for you as best as you can. Only you know your true feelings, what your inner monologue is saying & only you can dive into the deepest depths of your soul. Take time for yourself once a week, whether it be 10 minutes or an hour & do something just for you.
Examples; a facial, manicure, pedicure, face pack, gym session, countryside cycle or hike, a cup of tea & read a book, a deep hot bath.
2. Do not compare yourself to others. Our greatest assets are those that are unique to us. As a disabled person, I find it hard not to compare myself to the able bodied, but then I realise how much I have learned from my experiences as a disabled member of society. These are things that no able-bodied person would ever understand & that’s where I find my strength & my niche.
I am not like anyone else & that’s amazing, it means that no matter how hard I am pushed in a situation, no one could ever replace me because there is no comparison.
3. Manners cost nothing. A simple; please, thank you or I am sorry, will get you far in life. They take seconds to say but have a great force behind them. Never forget that those simple words can make or break most situations.
4. Karma is real. You reap what you sow in this world. Positive energy is highly underrated & undervalued.
5. Not everyone will like you & that is okay. You cannot control how others feel about you, but you can control how you make them feel. If they don’t like you then it’s their loss, but it doesn’t mean that you stop being kind or civil to them. Just be true to who you are & respect every individual as a fellow human being.
6. Acceptance is key. No one can change who you are, only you can do that. Equally, you cannot expect to change someone else – you can educate them or steer them in a better direction, but change is personal & comes from within. If you just accept someone for who they are you’ll be more at peace with who you are inside.
7. When you fall, always get back up. You might bounce straight back, or it may take you years to recover, but don’t stay down. Pick yourself up, dust yourself off & seek help to put yourself back together.
8. Do not be afraid to speak your thoughts & feelings. Always ask for help when you need it & always be kind – everyone is fighting their own internal battle.
9. Stand up for the underdog. You have a voice – use it! One honest voice is always louder than a crowd.
10. Family isn’t always blood– build your support network. It comes from all corners of society in the form of friends. Only keep the loyal ones who stick by you when things get rough in life. Move on from the ones who drop away over time, not all friendships last a lifetime but the ones that do are phenomenal. Life will always throw you curve balls, expect it because it is normal. The way you get through it is by leaning on those close to you for support & reciprocating in their times of need.